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Tuesday, May 13, 2025

Spending Time Wisely... Pondering Identity, Sometimes Our Own, Sometimes that of Others!

 

Memoirs of a Geezer

  
Reflections and Observations -- A Bright Passage from the Fantasies of Youth to Illuminations of Advanced Maturity!


This Episode:             Spending Time Wisely...  Pondering Identity,
                    Sometimes Our Own, Sometimes that of Others!



Deep in the mists of geezerhood, with all of its obscurity, challenges, wonders and expectations -- ever Closer to surrendering the Illusion of Immortality -- in an effort to escape the clutter and cluster of urban smog and dust-scape, we tend to wander...  Where?  Somewhere!  Anywhere...  perhaps north, sometimes in other directions?!

At the beginning of a recent such brief odyssey, we were delighted to spy two BlueJays, each a buzz of glorious color.  As if the pair -- blurred but unable to conceal themselves entirely -- were speed painting their 
primary hues, spreading then onto the contrasting green of flora, some of it incipient, some in the full explosion of spring beauty and color!  

Heading south toward the river, SweetHeart and I were attempting to discover the oddly narrow stream of what we believed to be a tail of the river and how it joined its larger body.  In the end, thwarted by a power pole and impassible shrubbery, we were compelled to cross to the other side.  To no avail, we could not bend our vision to follow its path and the probable junction of a small thread to a larger skein! 

Having crossed, we found ourselves on a flag-bedecked vision of various contours of field and meadow, a greensward, bordered by vestigial woodlands, still spare, just budding in the nascent burst of early springtime.   

In the clubhouse on that purposely limited expanse of greenery, on which a number of combatants were attempting to strike dimpled white spheres, we donated one such found object to a surprised and grateful young woman about to participate in that very same campaign.  So many of them!   Swinging, striking, missing!  Possibly cursing!  What has happened, I wondered, to American productivity.  "Doesn't anyone work anymore?" Perhaps owing to fear and frustration, a feeling of ennui and hopelessness, the absurdities and lunacy of a political landscape populated by feckless buffoons whose aims and language many fail to fathom, perhaps never will!

Never mind all that.  We move on!  I suppose some would question our own dedication to the betterment of the nation's economic health.  We are old, yes, but we continue to work as much as we're able.  Being older, or historic, as our grandson describes us, we sometimes seize moments when industry fails to beckon, and thus we wander.  Our attempts to find joy in simple pursuits, to spend time in peaceful reflection, visions of wings, the undulating and constant movement of water, gorgeous vistas of green, purple, pink, lavender, sepia, emerald and sage!  Dazzled often by its variety, complexity, beauty and memory!  

Our wanderings do take us, or perhaps lead us inexorably, to destinations comprised of those aforementioned joys, miracles and colors, where ospreys soar and dive and capture
river fish with which to feed their young and themselves.  Until late summer when offspring begin to fledge, testing courage and wing strength, ability and that ancient, instinctively-rediscovered route to winter feeding grounds far to the South. 

We often wish that our forte, our primary bread-winning focus, were educative travel, leading followers to distant shores, exotic cities and towns, to far-away places, fascinating ideas, customs and faces!  (The word "forte" -- by the by -- contains a Silent "E" and is pronounced "Fort," and means one's strength, one's matier, one's principal gift or talent, one's "Thing," so to speak!)

Alas, at least for now, we wander in limited scope and distance, but we can and do dream of greater escapes.  Well, to be honest and accurate, we've both traveled somewhat
extensively, in our distant past -- to France, Spain, Morocco, Italy, Estonia, Turkey, Mexico, Canada, England, Finland -- and to many destinations in our own country.  Mustn't grumble, but still we long to wander further afield, and oftener!  

Meanwhile, we have our Great Lake, the Confluence of Three Rivers, our namesake river and other bodies of water in which big ships plow their way to ports and harbors and depositories.  Many offloading their goods and their essential cargoes from great, cavernous holds, or collecting commodities to ferry to other faraway places, ports and harbors, many great vessels with self-discharging structures aboard, destined for as many ports with enormous collection canyons and conveying contrivances on their shores!

As we steer our course toward oblivion, or a pleasant terminus in the realm of wander, I suppose we do at times tend to consider our own identities.  Who are we, what is our aim or purpose in life?  Do we continuously ponder our identities, what we're intended to do or be.  Our friend, Bill, cares deeply about such inponderables.  We, on the other hand, do not, or usually we do not.  We do, however, care about how to spend our time enjoyably and profitably, meaning profitable in terms of happy enterprise.  And we will, I hope, continue to do so when time and tide enable us to wander leisurely, even aimlessly, through the often bewildering mists of GeezerHood!  

(Special Note of Dedication:   For SweetHeart and all of our good chums and relatives who have been elevated to the status and the state of Wisdom!  I note that aristocrats speak of being "Elevated to the Purple," that is, achieving a position of royalty.  Those of us not of the peerage or royal lineage achieve veneration through the process of aging gracefully, and should therefore be accorded great respect and admiration...  possibly purple garments too!)  

Humbly submitted 05-13-25 -- Joel K.

  

  





 

    



       




 

Thursday, January 18, 2018

Identity... Nicknames... Noms de Plume, and Like That!

Memoirs of a Geezer!

Reflections and Observations -- A Bright Passage from the Fantasies of Youth 
to Illuminations of Advanced Maturity!


This Episode:      Identity...  Nicknames...  Noms de Plume, and Like That!

As I gaze through the lens of hoary GeezerHood, that lofty pinnacle (or is it the nadir?) of life on this planet, I cannot help but ponder the complex concept of identity, that of those we know and encounter in our lives, and our own.  Masks? Do we ALL wear them? It's a puzzle, what? 

In my youth, I knew a kid who held the unenviable nickname, "Stinky."  I don't recall that he was surrounded perpetually by a repulsive odor, in fact I don't think that was the reason. Perhaps he fell into a sewer, you know, just once!  Maybe he collected stinkhorns!  I don't know, but the nickname stuck throughout elementary school, and what an awful stigma to have to carry. (I wonder if people still call him "Stinky"?!)

I suppose I digress a bit!  We all know the phrase, "re-inventing oneself." Not sure I know exactly what it means.  In fact, I don't know who the hell I am, most of the time. I think we all tend to identify ourselves in terms of the different phases of our lives. We're different individuals as children, as teens, young adults...  And what about mood swings?  Bi-polar disorder? Do they change who we are, how we've perceived and identified? Certainly "Bi-Polar" has to pin a name tag on the afflicted party!!   

And how about a specific identity that's attached to a person in a specific place he or she tends to frequent? A case in point, maybe not a perfect example, but perhaps kind of interesting...  Consider a telephone conversation in which an casual listener might think both
parties nuts, or brain disordered:

"Simon's Tap!"
"That you, Wa...? I mean..."
"It's me, Archie.  Who's this?"
"Um... it's me, J...  I mean...."
"Mario? That you?"
"Yeah.  How you doin' Archie?  'The Boy' around?"
"How's Bobby?"
"SweetHeart?"
"Yeah, Bobby.  How's she doin'?"
"She's doin' OK. Big Nick there today? TV Johnny? Oil Rag Ralph?..."

Maybe nicknames are not about identity or even real perceptions of personality or a consequence of re-invention! But we do tend to be identified and given different names by people based on how we present ourselves, our personality traits, talents, appearance, what we do for work! "Mario" rose out of my tendency to sing for the gang at the saloon. Don't know how "Bobby" evolved!

I've had conversations with scholarly individuals who insist we never really know who we are, how to self-identify or convey who we think we are to others. So many tend to identify people in terms of what they do, not who they actually are. We present different faces in the workplace, often very different from those we present to intimates -- family members and close friends -- away from our places of employment.

Email, texting, telephone conversations... they tend to identify people in ways that may be very much or entirely contrary to who we / they might actually be. I have an old friend who is, in most circumstances, bright and articulate, but his telephone manner made one think of a shorthand clerk with a particular dislike for anything longer than 10-seconds on a telephone:

[ Phone rings! (Longer than four rings and he's gone!) ]
"Doin?"
"Nuttin'."
"S'up? Jeetjet?"
"Nah, d'jou?"
"Jake's...  five!"
"Ten OK?"
"Got smokes?"
"Some."
"Bucks."
"Some."
"Bring."
(Bang! The end of it was always ear-pingingly loud!)

The conversation -- or whatever it was -- was always the same, no matter who was called.  I
This is not a good likeness
of Uncle Icky! Nor is the
top image a good depiction
of the laconic caller, but you
probably get the idea!
often wonder if he knew, or cared, who he was calling.  Probably didn't matter!  As long as someone showed up with money and smokes in the time allowed!


Long ago, some good friends lived upstairs from us.  The male part of the duo had a fondness for strong drink...  To be accurate, I guess we all did in those days. One afternoon or early evening, he stumbled in, climbed a few steps, stumbled back one or two, finally arrived at our open back door. "Hey," he slurred as he beamed a smile, eyes not quite focused, addressing the three of us, SweetHeart, our only child at the time and me.

Our little daughter, then just in infancy, perhaps nearing toddler stage, pointed at our friend with a certain degree of dramatic emphasis and said, "Ick." From that day to this, our friend is known affectionately as "Uncle Icky." We've had T-shirts made with the nickname emblazoned upon them.  I assure you, he wasn't chronically "icky" with strong spirits, and in fact is a very bright, well-informed and largely self-taught individual. There was, still is, about him a great deal of humor, sober or inebriated! He doesn't seem to mind the moniker, "Uncle Icky." I guess he'd of said something by now, three or four decades later!
Florence did not look like
"Mickey da Rat," but she
did have Red Hair!

Certain labels or so-called identities we hang on people are not at all kind, or fair, or accurate. At a major hotel at which I worked in the Seattle-Tacoma area, there was a salad chef we christened "Florence of Arabia." Why? When she was concocting her leafy, culinary masterworks, knives flashing and whirling, lettuces and vegetable matter flying about her head and upper torso as she worked...  I mean, it all looked like a vegetarian sandstorm! It's entirely possible she went from her job to an art studio, or maybe, avocationally, she knit socks, or volunteered as a counselor to people struggling with identity issues...

One more thing...  I think it's rather sad and unfortunate that people tend to identify certain individuals in terms of prominent physical characteristics, often unkindly so...

"That you, Biffy?  How ya doin'?"
"I'm OK. You?"
"Good, thanks!"
"Hey Biffy, I lost my address book. Can you give me Iggy Blotnik's phone number?"
"You mean the guy wid de ears?"
"Look, Biffy, it's true Iggy has noticeably large ears and elongated lobes, but he has many other, including some very admirable characteristics too. He's bright. He's knowledgable. He's a great conversationalist. Good hair and teeth. I mean, the guy's a well-known micro-biologist!!"
"You mean the guy wid dem ears!"
"Gimme the phone number, Biffy."

So who the hell are we, really? And how do we truly come to know one another? I mean, in a real and significant sense! Oh well...  I'm hoping I'll eventually figure out a point to all this foolishness! Hey! Maybe everyone in the nation ought to have a talk show or a reality program to let people know who we are! Wait! Here's a swell idea for a brand new television show:  "Who am I? Do I Know, or Do You?" I should call Doctor Phil, or somebody. On second thought, never mind...   It's all too obscure and indefinable!!


Humbly Submitted, January 18, 2018 -- Joel K.